What should you do if you share a room with someone and are trying to get into the room, but your roommate is having sex? What do you do if you really need to grab something inside that room, but there is no end to the roommate sex session in sight? What would be the appropriate way to interrupt and get what I need?

Sexiled

Dear Sexiled,

Start with a warning via text message. Then continue by calling. Then continue with loud knocking (give it two minutes). If there's no response, loudly enter the room. Sneaking in will just make you look like a voyeur. Being loud will give them time to cover up. Be sure to make more noise than them. Avoid saying anything that can be misconstrued as kinky sex talk by a partner. Just loudly repeat: "Not Looking. Getting something." Get what you need and go. Once you get what you need and go, talk about it the next morning. Between the text message, the cell phone call and two minutes of knocking, you will have enough evidence to show that you tried to respect your roommate's space. Discuss what kind of system can be created so this will never happen again.

Dear Harlan,

I will be 18 years old in the fall. While I was in high school, none of the boys I liked ever reciprocated. I spent a lot of time liking them and a lot of effort trying to get them to like me only to get rejected and heartbroken many times. I'm afraid this will happen in college. Recently, I have met a boy from my future freshman class in college who is cute, smart, funny and very sweet. I have chatted with him on Facebook several times and we talked briefly at our orientation. We seem very compatible. When we talk, he uses my first name and asks for my opinion on things rather than just talking about himself or showing little interest in what I have to say. The only problem is that he rarely initiates the conversation. I talk to him on Facebook every time I see that he is online. I'm afraid that he eventually will get annoyed with me and stop responding. I don't want to be left humiliated and rejected. I want college to be different. I want to actually get the boy I like for once! What should I do?

Uneasy Again

Dear Uneasy,

What would be humiliating if he

didn't want to date you? The idea that you'd so easily be humiliated tells me that you don't give men permission to NOT want you. When you don't give men permission to NOT want you, the pressure to be liked is all-consuming. When you find that someone that likes you, the fear of losing him becomes too intense. And when you're this consumed and intense, it's hard to have a healthy relationship. You are so young and have so many options. If a guy doesn't reciprocate, quickly move on to the next one. Do this, and things will change. Guys will eventually realize that they missed out and start chasing you. You'll be so confident and comfortable, you'll be able to demand and command respect. Bottom line — if a guy isn't responding, move on to the next one. There are too many men who will want you to waste time being humiliated.